SINGING DRAGON EVENT 3 AUDIO TRANSCRIPT
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Well Hello, everyone. Hello, and
a very, very warm welcome to
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you.
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Thank you so much for joining us
here on today's showing up safe
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Singing Dragon 15th birthday
event. It's absolutely wonderful
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to have you with us here today.
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I'm so delighted to welcome you
to this very, very special
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event. I said Singing Dragon is
15 years old. And to mark this
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wonderful, wonderful momentous
occasion. We've programmed in a
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series of one hour discussion
events, when you will get to
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meet some of our fantastic
authors. And to find out more
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about their areas of expertise,
we really hope that these events
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will help to inform your
understanding of differing
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health modalities, and to
discover how they can not only
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profoundly change the lives of
our patients, but how big of a
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major impact on transforming the
communities in which we live. We
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hope that after today's event,
you'll come away learning more
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about yourself the vital role
that you have in the therapeutic
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process, and also with some
eminently practical skills and
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tips that you can immediately
enrich your practice with. We
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also hope that today's event
will spark some cross
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disciplinary conversations. And
that also it will provide a
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wonderful opportunity for us to
learn from each other. And
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already in the chat box. I'm
seeing that we've got so many
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people here who come with so
many different different skills.
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So hello to Padma from Oxford,
who is an acupuncturist and a
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yoga teacher. We have Kate
Sherman from Pittsburgh, who's a
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Shiatsu practitioner and a
licenced therapist. And dorina
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pattern is an acupuncturist and
a cranial sacral therapist, a
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women's health physiotherapist
and a primitive under primitive
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reflex therapists. So we've got
so many wonderful people in the
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room. And thank you so much for
joining us today.
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The main topics of today's
discussion will be showing up
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safe, how yoga and acupuncture
can help our trauma patients and
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the vital importance of inner
work and self reflection in
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order to make the most of what
we do. Now at this moment, I
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would like to see two bits of
housekeeping. The first is that
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if you use closed captions,
please click on this CC link at
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the bottom of the screen. And
also we're going to be recording
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today's today's presentation so
you can put down your pens, you
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can put down your notes, you can
sit back and enjoy and engage
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with prozesse. Now, on to some
introductions. My name is Kevin
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Durjan. And I'm an acupuncture
practitioner based in South
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London. I'm also a broadcaster
for UK health radio, and I
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present the weekly show
acupuncture for them. Now it's
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my goal today to facilitate the
discussion with our expert
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guests. And to ensure that you
get to have your say so just as
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my wonderful colleague Suzanne
has put into the chat box.
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Please do submit your questions
nice and early so that we can
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really get the discussion
moving, programmed in plenty of
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time for your questions at the
end of today's seminar that a
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celebration starts now at 4pm
Eastern Time 9pm 8pm UK time and
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it will end in one hour's time.
So without further ado, let us
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meet with our fantastic guests
today. Dr. Gail Parker is an
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author, psychologist, educator,
and certified yoga teacher and
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yoga therapist. She is the
author of restorative yoga for
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ethnic and race based stress and
trauma and the forthcoming book,
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ethnic transforming ethnic and
race based traumatic stress with
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yoga. Now Dr. Gail Parker's
focus is on how to support
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emotional balance and wellbeing
for those directly and
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indirectly impact by ethnic and
race based stress and trauma and
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also to offer tools that aid in
the processing of stressful
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experiences and in trauma
recovery. A very warm welcome
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Dr. Gail Parker, thank you for
joining us. Thank you for
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inviting me.
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Well, I'm just absolutely
absolutely thrilled. Thank you.
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I would now like to welcome our
next guest, Lorie Dechar. Lorie
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Dechar is an alchemical healer,
a mentor, a dream tender, a
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poetic scholar and an artist
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With over 30 years of practice
in the field of Chinese
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medicine. She's the author of
Kigo. One of my favourite books
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by the way, exploring the
spiritual essence of acupuncture
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points through the changing
seasons, the alchemy of inner
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work, a guide for turning
illness and suffering, in true
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health and well being.
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Five spirits out cap acupuncture
for psychological and spiritual
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healing. One current focus of
Lorie's work is the Taoist
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concept of the poet's soul. And
the doorway, these lower souls
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provides to healing ancestral
trauma. A very warm welcome,
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Lorie Dechar. Thank you so much,
Kevin, it's lovely to be here
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with you and, and Gail. And
looking forward to the
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conversation.
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I must say to everybody who is
who is watching today, all of
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our wonderful participants, your
in for an absolute treat,
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because these women are masters
in their respective fields. And
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what we're going to discuss
today has never been more
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relevant. So let's kick off our
discussion. So I'd like to, I'd
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like to first start quite broad
and come up with a discussion of
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trauma from your, from your
different perspectives. So let's
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start with you. And Gail, could
you explain the difference
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between race based stress and
trauma and post traumatic stress
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disorder?
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Yes, and I think it's an
important distinction to make,
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because most of us working in
these health professions
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understand a little bit on some
of us quite a bit about Post
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Traumatic Stress Disorder. But a
neglected area of trauma and
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stress is based on racial stress
and trauma. And now is a
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particularly important time
because we're seeing that it's
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interesting because
historically, during global
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pandemics, xenophobia and racism
increase, and we're actually
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seeing that and we're living
that and this is a global
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problem. This is not just a
problem. That's local to what
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wherever you happen to be. And
so what I wanted to do was to
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share with people that that race
based stress and trauma are
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real. And I'll talk I'll tell
you in a minute how they're
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different from PTSD. And also
just to bring awareness to that
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fact that this is a thing that
exists, and that it's unique.
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Race-based traumatic stress
injury is considered an injury,
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it is not considered a
psychological disorder. So to
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treat it as if it's a disorder
as if there's something wrong
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with you for having the
experience you're having re
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traumatises someone who is
experiencing racial stress and
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trauma, race based traumatic
stress injury is regarded as at
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it's caused by an external
racial events, something has
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happened to you, that is race
related that has caused you
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emotional pain that has caused
emotional injury. It also
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happens to be something that
people of colour, and
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particularly black people
worldwide experience in an
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ongoing, cumulative, recurrent
way. It's not a one time event
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that happens. It's based on
social exclusion, which for
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human beings, as we know, is one
of the most painful, emotionally
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painful experiences that we can
have. we're hardwired for
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connection, not for
disconnection. So when you are
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put to the margins, when you are
excluded when you are ignored
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when you are minimised when
you're rendered invisible. This
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is an extremely emotionally
painful, damaging experience.
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And over time, it can become
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,
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but it doesn't start there. So
post traumatic stress disorder
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is a psychiatric disorder. It is
usually based on this. This is
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the definition. This is the
clinical definition that I'm
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giving you. It's based on
usually a life threatening event
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that the person has not been
able to digest or process. And
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so they continue having this
recurring, this reemergence of
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the trauma, because it isn't
being digested. It's not being
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internalised. And alkalized in a
way that can make it
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healing for you.
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So the difference, the core
stressor in post traumatic
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stress disorder is a life
threatening event, the core
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stressor in race based traumatic
stress is an emotional injury
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that's based on a racial
experience. And so who decides
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what that is the person who's
having the experience. It's not
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up to us to decide, well, that
really didn't happen to you. I
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was listening to actually
someone was offering a book talk
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on the book that I have written
about this. And a young teacher
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began to talk and she said, I
think I made a mistake. One of
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my students, a large, a tall,
big, young man, should the
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teacher swipe this kid was
black, was acting out in class.
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And so she took them outside to
talk to him. And when one of the
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one one of the security guards
pass them by the security guards
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said to her, are you okay? And
this kid looked at her and said,
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See, that's what I've been
trying to tell you. In other
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words, he felt the the insult,
he experienced that as an
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insult. She said that she felt
terrible, because she made a
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mistake by explaining demo was
because you were acting out. Not
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because you're black. And she
realised in this conversation
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that that, that she had made a
mistake. So that's a good thing.
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Because what she said is, I will
do that again. So do you want
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more? So I keep talking
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about actually, actually,
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as as you were talking, Gail,
Lorie was feeling it. So I'd now
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like to come to Lorie. How does
what Dr. Gail Parker's
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how, how does watch she's just
been saying connect with, with
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your understanding and the
concept of the posole?
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Oh, well, first of all, I just
want to appreciate what Dr.
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Parker has said, I'm just
hearing that clarity of
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breakdown and distinctions is so
so helpful. And of course, I've
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read some of the cases from your
book, Gail, but this particular
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story I had never heard you
share. And um, so it's just
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incredibly moving, really moving
and so amazing that we can
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learn, you know, that we all can
learn, but especially as a white
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person to say, yeah, we are
going to make mistakes. You
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know, we we can't know what it's
like to live in an other than
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white skin. You know, being
Jewish, I have my own heritages
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of trauma. But again, at this
point, I live in a privileged
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skin. And so we can't know, we
have to be willing to admit that
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we're making a mistake, to learn
to really feel into so that's a
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beautiful story. And thank you
for sharing that. As far as
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taking it back to my work, which
is there is a large focus on
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trauma, healing from trauma,
working with the neurological
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and sort of emotional,
psychological, spiritual effects
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of trauma. So it's not
specifically race based or
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ethnic based trauma. I want to
just say, and this is actually
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coming out of Gail's book, but
where you once again makes such
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a great clarification, race
based trauma as opposed to other
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trauma, the differences not
physiology, but context. And,
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you know, that's so helpful to
understand because, as you said,
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in race based trauma, you're
living in a context of, you
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know, having to move through
predominantly white spaces, and
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the traumas and the
microaggressions are nor, you
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know, are considered normal by
white culture. So, like you
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said, to begin to say, No, I'm
not crazy the culture is, is
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needs to change. But staying
with that idea that the
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difference is not one of
physiology, but of context. What
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I want to say is through my
studies of Chinese medicine,
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what I have discovered is that
Chinese physicians, ancient
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physicians 3000 years ago, maybe
even more, I would say if we
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looked at some of the classics,
we can say we're going back even
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more possibly than 3000 years,
we're already seeing the effects
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of trauma. So, and they
described it through the lens of
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the medicine, Kevin, that you
and I practice, and many people
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in the audience practice Chinese
medicine. But again, it's a
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filter, we're looking at the
same neurological,
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physiological, and endocrine
changes, our organisms have not,
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you know, on that level
fundamentally changed. So what
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the Chinese saw, and I think
it's, again, they were looking
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through the lens of their own
consciousness, which is what we
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could call a mythical magical
consciousness, a very symbolic
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medicine, that, at first may
seem quite different. But
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actually Western, I always say
Western medicine and Western
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science is now catching up with
Chinese medicine. And I'll
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mention that later when we look
at the field of epigenetics but
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backing up so the Chinese what
they saw was that when a person
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experienced that kind of an
digestible, external event,
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either whether it's an invasion
by a boundary violation by a
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family member, a tremendous
climactic events, cultural
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upheavals, there's all sorts of
ways that our organisms are
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subjected to events that we
can't, we just can't metabolise
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too much to bear, it's outside,
the norm of my experience, or
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what my body knows should be,
for example, a family member who
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should be protective, who rather
is abusive or invasive, we can't
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metabolise that we're not meant
to.
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So, our organisms have created
an amazing capacity to, to do
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something with that. And in
western psychology, they'll call
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it dissociate, we put it aside.
In Western psychology, again,
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they'll say, well, it goes into
the unconscious. What the
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Chinese said, is that, when we
experience this kind of
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traumatic event, a part of me,
which they call the Shen, or the
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spirit, a part of my spirit,
actually leaves it's, it's meant
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to rest in my heart. But when I
experienced trauma, and most of
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us have experienced some kind of
traumatic event, and you know,
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it's like a shock to your heart,
that shot to the heart is
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actually in our medicine,
leaving the arm, a spark of our
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spirit, called the Shen spirit,
or light goes back up to the
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stars where it's safe. And
another part of us which they
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call the post saw, which is, as
you mentioned, Kevin, one of my
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big areas of interest now, which
is the body soul actually takes
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the memory takes the material,
and kind of puts it in the body
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below the level of conscious
awareness. Again, Western
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psychology we say goes into the
body goes into what does that
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mean goes into the body, it goes
into the more primal aspects of
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the brain and nervous system,
what's called the reptilian
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brain, the limbic limbic system,
but in Chinese medicine, we say
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goes to the posts of this body
soul that actually will hold it
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kind of encrusted or put it down
under the earth. Meanwhile, the
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Shen spirits are light spirit
has gone to the stars. So you
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see a kind of often a kind of
blankness, a kind of confusion
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state, people have a hard time
talking about what happened. And
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these aspects of the soul from a
Chinese medical perspective,
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will kind of hold that
configuration which takes a
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large toll on the body on our
essences. You know, it's not,
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it's not the holding pattern
that is most conducive to life,
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but it allows us to survive
until we create conditions,
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whether it's in a therapeutic
situation or restorative yoga
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pose with
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Dr. Parker, this, I think that
this is a wonderful time for us
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to move on. But I would
actually, at this point, like to
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mention that if you would like
to feed it for questions, we do
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have questions and answers at
the end of today's session. So
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please do and put them into the
Q&A box. And we will, we will
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draw into the discussion because
we want this very much to be a
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into an integrated and an
interactive session. So moving
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on from what you were saying,
Lorie Dechar let's now turn to
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Gail and find out what is it
about yoga, that makes it so
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effective at supporting
communities that have a living
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with trauma?
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Well, yoga is it's it's, it's a
healing practice, it's a
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transformative practice. So in
the West, it has become, at
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least in the United States, it
has become a physical practice.
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It's a practice of physical
exercise. But it is Yoga is so
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much more than that. And when I
was introduced to yoga, which
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was 15 years ago, I was not it
was not introduced as a form of
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physical exercise. It was a
holistic practice that spoke to
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the physical body, to the energy
body, to the mental emotional
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body to the intuitive wisdom
body, and to the spiritual body,
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the bliss body is what the
Yogi's call it. And so it was a
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complete practice. And so that
was my introduction to yoga. So
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I never isolated the physical
practice from all of that.
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restorative Yoga is a very
specific, someone talk about
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restorative yoga, I think all
yoga can be restorative, and can
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be transformative. But all Yoga
is not restorative yoga.
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restorative Yoga is a very
specific form of yoga, that uses
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props to support the body in
holding postures for extended
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periods of time. It's done in
silence for the most part,
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although some people like to
play music, but it's, it's done
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in silence. It's done in in
stillness, and the entire
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practice, while it's being
supported by bolsters and
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blankets, and creating all just
comfort in the physical body. So
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there's no stretching, there's
no muscle energy being used at
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all, you're trying to reduce
stress. Not there's anything
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wrong with some amounts of
stress. But that's not what
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restorative Yoga is doing. So
it's stimulating the
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parasympathetic nervous system,
which is the part of our nervous
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system that allows us to rest
and allows us to feel safe. In
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our resting when people are
under chronic stress, which race
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based traumatic stress injury
can be a cry is tends to be a
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chronic stressor. Resting, does
not feel safe, when your nervous
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system is on high alert, whether
you know it or not, when it's on
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high alert, most of the time, it
doesn't feel comfortable to come
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to rest, it sounds like it
should. But when you are in
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fight flight mode, most of the
time, whether you know it or
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not, that's your, that's your
comfort zone. That's where you
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feel safest. It's not healthy,
though. And that becomes
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problematic. And so these
restorative practices support
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people who are not used to
feeling comfortable in their own
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vulnerability, who are not used
to feel uncomfortable in and
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safe during rest, in getting the
wrist, the restoration, the
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growth, that they deserve, the
reparation and the good, the
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repair, and the growth they
deserve. So that's how this
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particular practice can support
individuals, the individuals
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make up the community. So when
we used to be practising
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together in studios, and now
we're practising together
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online, so the community it's a
different configuration of
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community. Community is not a
location, it's not a place it's
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it's a group of people who come
together with a common interest,
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who are supporting each other
in, in the in being healthy and
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achieving their goals and coming
to a deeper level of
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understanding and communion
connection with each other. So
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that's what the restorative
practice does. That's what it
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supports. And anybody can do it.
See you it's you don't have to
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To you, anyone can do it.
Anybody can do restorative yoga.
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One of the poses, for those of
you who may not know restorative
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Yoga is you, you lay on your
back, you put a lovely blanket
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roll under your knees, you put a
nice pillow under your head, you
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can support your arms by laying
on more blankets that you have,
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and you breathe, and you breathe
and you breathe, and you evoke
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the relaxation response. So let
me just say that
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physiologically, the relaxation
response is a real thing. When
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it it takes about 20 minutes in
the practice for that to click
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in, your heart rate slows,
metabolism slows, brainwaves,
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slow, breath becomes more
efficient, and and there you
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are, there's there becomes
that's where the healing occurs.
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That was before us talking about
this community. I always believe
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that these virtual events, there
is something tangible and
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something real about it, because
we're all pouring in our energy
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into the same focus. nodding
again, as Gail was talking, how
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does how does acupuncture
support an individual? And also
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how does acupuncture support
communities healing with trauma?
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Well, again, I mean, I'm just
taking in some of what Gail
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shared and I feel like, the key
thing I mean, first of all, just
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listening and just hearing about
that restorative pose, I start
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to feel my nervous system calm
down. It's so miraculous. But
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that's exactly where I had sort
of, in my closing to say we need
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to create the conditions of
safety, showing up save, where
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the the Shen, this speck of
spirit can actually come back to
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the heart I often talk about the
Shen is these little birds, and
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the heart is their nest. And
when from or big emotions come,
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you know, the trees are shaking
in their storm winds, these
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little birds fly off, which they
do. So we're looking to create
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conditions of safety, conditions
of holding, where these birds
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can come back to their nest in
the heart. And where this
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material that has been held in
the pOH can be metabolised.
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lying down on the treatment
table, when you have good
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rapport with your practitioner
is the beginning of the healing
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process. I know myself went even
after 35 years of practice and
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being treated by many people,
when I lie down on the treatment
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table with a practitioner, I
trust, that same relaxation
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process already begins. Then in
addition, there are treatments
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we are not obviously going to go
into them here but there are
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treatments specifically aimed at
clearing trauma, even very deep
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trauma, through the various
meridians and organs where it's
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held. Again, people in the
audience may know some of these
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and then there's the use of
spirit points, which is a lot of
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what my book with singing dragon
is about. And I think of spirit
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point is like it's it's an open
gateway into the mysteries. It's
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this is the way many of these
points tell us use this point
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for trauma hearts seven Shen
men, what's the name telling us
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this is the gateway that the
Spirit can come back through. So
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at the end, we'll give a couple
of points. But that, you know,
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again, this is in the book, it's
in Kigo. You can read about them
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and incorporate them even if
you're not a practitioner. It's
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you can use these points with
flower essences with oil simply
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with touch, and they will open
the gateways for these spirits
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to return. As far as community
work, I there are amazing
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community acupuncture clinics
doing incredible work in inner
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cities, in places there's
acupuncturist without borders,
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doing your acupuncture in all
over the world. That is one of
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the ways The Chinese medicine
can function in this work. But
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for me, I believe that a large
part of the healing happens in
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the treatment room, but it also
happens in community. So
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actually, my husband, Benjamin
Fox, and I have started an
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online community called the
inner healing circle, add a new
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possibility.com, which we'd love
that everyone to check out. And
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it really is a virtual healing
community for practitioners and
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patients looking to do this
work. And we've got meetups and
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courses and amazing faculty. I
think one of our teachers,
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Lindsey Fauntleroy is with us
today. So shout out to Lindsey.
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And it's a growing vibrant
community of healing.
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Thank you, thank you. And again,
so needed at this time in the
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world evolution. Lorie, you
mentioned just then the concept
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of showing up safe now is
something that I would very much
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like to return to you, Dr. Gail
Parker, to explain what this
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means. And why it is important
for dealing with trauma to show
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up safe to their practices. So
showing up safe is not just
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important to dealing with
trauma. Showing up safe is
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important to being in connection
with human beings, your most
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intimate partner to a stranger
on the street. So what does that
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mean showing up safe, it means
that I, I, each individual
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within the community
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needs to cultivate an inner
awareness of their own calmness,
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their own sense of peacefulness,
their own sense of being a safe
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person to be around. In other
words, none of us wants to be
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the hot stove that nobody wants
to touch. And yet, we can beat
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that if we're not being mindful
if we're not paying attention.
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And so it for me, that's that is
a practice just showing up safe.
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It involves modulating your
voice for what well, I, you
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know, I don't want to do the
cosmetic stuff. But it does have
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to do with modulating your
voice, the way you the way you
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approach people, even your
physical appearance. just paying
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attention to how you the energy
that you're communicating, when
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you're in relationship to other
people is is the beginning of
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doing that. But you have to you
have to engage in inner
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practices to do that, you have
to be safe in other words, so if
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you go to Lorie, for example,
for an acupuncture treatment,
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and she is agitated and upset,
you will feel that if you've
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come to me for a
psychotherapeutic intervention,
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or even a yoga therapeutic
intervention, and I'm agitated,
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you will feel that, whether I'm
aware of it or not. And so each
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of us has a responsibility to
come to that place of inner
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peace and calm before we go out
into the world. Because our
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energy, we co regulate each
other's nervous systems, we just
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do. So if you're dealing with so
when people come to you for
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treatment, usually they're
anxious, I mean, people aren't
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usually coming in thrilled to be
there, at least not initially.
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And so it's critically important
for us to be grounded, to be
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grounded in that sense of inner
peace, that sense of
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authenticity, a willingness on
our own to be vulnerable because
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we're asking you to be
vulnerable and this is how we
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begin to cultivate and build a
sense of trust and it's the
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nervous system that is
responding it doesn't it doesn't
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matter what I'm what sort of
matters what I'm saying you know
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what I mean that that that
matters, but what we're speaking
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to is the nervous system so from
my nervous system is bent out of
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shape then that's going to be
communicated to the individual
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that I'm approaching and so then
I'm not showing up safe so
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creating that you know, we hear
a lot about creating safe space.
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So we learn you know, I don't
you learn I guess how to do I
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don't know how I don't teach
that how to create a safe space.
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But yeah, you know, so I know
some people do. There are all
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these rules and regulations
about how to do that. If you
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aren't safe, if you are not
grounded and centred in your own
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sense of inner peace and safety
and calm and love, heart
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centred. You're not safe, you
just start. So that's first use
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on me. Thank
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you beautifully, beautifully put
beautifully put. Lorie, how does
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this resonate with your, with
your understandings and your
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philosophy on the importance of,
of, of doing inner work?
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Well, I think it's good that
Gail has is articulated so much
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about that already. And again, I
just I love hearing you speak
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kale, it's just so moving and
beautiful and true. And I'd love
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what you said about well, I
don't, I don't exactly create
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safe space, and you don't have
to because you are safe space,
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you be safe space. And that is
the work and how do we do? How
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do we become safe space. And,
and then through that becoming,
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create that environment, that's
through the inner work. So
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again, what Gail said about
we're transmitting Of course
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content, what I say how I use
language, my care with the
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language is part of the creation
of a safe environment. But even
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beyond that is what's happening
at the level of the nervous
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system. So that is the post soul
again, the body soul, the body
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00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:55,420
soul is reading so much data
that the conscious mind couldn't
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00:36:55,420 --> 00:37:02,290
possibly be taking in. So the
environment, the body language,
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my capacity to come to my own
calm through inner practice. And
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then also what's being
transmitted through the heart,
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which again, is is a kind of
practice that agitation, Gail,
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that you spoke about, from a
Chinese perspective would be
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saying that the heart is filled
with emotion, it's filled with
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agitated emotions, what happens
then, those little birds are
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like, well, there's no room for
me in the nest, there's no room
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for the spirit, the light of the
Shen to actually guide what
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happens in the treatment room. I
need to have practices that I do
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regularly, kind of housekeeping
practices, where I clear those
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agitated emotions, where I have
ways to actually clear the heart
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space so that my spirit can
reside there. So I can create
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the kind of environment and this
is both mythic symbolic, but
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it's literal. And as I said, you
know, Western medicine's
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catching up with Chinese
medicine now, because they, they
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can now measure the oscillations
and vibrations of the heart,
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that it's now known, we're
affecting each other. Definitely
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18 inches, which is the mother
baby distance, measurable to
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five feet. But Kevin, you and I
are doing it right now. And
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Gail, you and I are doing it. As
I'm looking at your eyes through
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this screen. We're creating
these Shen currents that are
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affecting our hearts and our
bodies right now. So that's,
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that's my response to that
question it or work and of
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course, our you know, lead in
line on our website, his inner
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work leads to outer change. This
work that we do with our own
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nervous systems with our own
hearts, for me, is the first
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step in making change on the
planet.
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Beautiful, beautiful,
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thank you say something.
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Like, how did you come in?
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Yes, you know, I am a fan of
Lorie. No, I just I just I love
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listening to you, Lorie, I love
listening to you. And as I've
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said to you before, if I were in
your if I lived near you, I
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would come and be your client. I
wouldn't really it's sort of
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that, you know, where you just
kind of, I don't know, you meet
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and make this connection and and
you know it when, you know, how
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do you know it's a felt sense?
It's a felt sense.
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00:39:54,000 --> 00:40:00,090
Yeah. Yes. You know, and that is
through the activation. That's
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the basis of Yoga, it's the
basis of Chinese medicine. It's
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the basis of all what I call the
alchemical practices. Yeah.
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Now, we've got another five
minutes for our discussion
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before we move on to our
questions and answers. So
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everybody who is taking part and
engaging, we're all engaging in
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today's today's event, please do
use the Q&A box to feed in your
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questions. And we will, we will
invite our wonderful, our
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wonderful specialists, Lorie
Dechar and Dr. Gail Parker to to
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answer those questions. Also, on
the subject of sharing, I would
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00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:46,500
like to say that our our the
wonderful Singing Dragon has
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00:40:46,530 --> 00:40:51,600
popped into the chat box, a link
to a digital goodie bag. And it
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00:40:51,660 --> 00:40:57,540
absolutely is brimming with
wonderful discounts and links
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00:40:57,780 --> 00:41:03,810
and wonderful excerpts from from
the books of our expert experts
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here today. So moving on, we've
got a couple more minutes. Let's
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before we move on to our
questions. You mentioned earlier
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on about laying your your
patient deported with blankets
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and helping them to relax. Could
you give us your favourite, your
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favourite practical tips that
our our participants here can
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take away with them?
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Yeah, as far as showing up
safest, I'll give showing up
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safe. If, if that's acceptable.
So one of the things that I do,
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I'll share my practice with you
as what I'll do. So I'm very
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intentional. And making sure
that I do no harm. Now, I'm sure
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that I know see, nobody's
running a perfect game, nobody.
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00:41:57,330 --> 00:42:01,860
So I'm sure that there are times
when I cause harm, not just I'm
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not talking about patients, I'm
talking about the people in
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00:42:04,170 --> 00:42:09,210
general, I don't just do this in
my work. I am living what I'm
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talking about. So but I'm really
intentional about it. I'm
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00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,330
really, really intentional about
it and conscious of it. I'm very
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mindful of the language that I
use, and the tone of voice that
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I speak and of showing up really
authentically and speaking the
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00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:33,060
truth. And one of the rules I
follow is is it necessary? Is it
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truthful? Is it kind? And does
it improve on the silence, you
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00:42:38,070 --> 00:42:51,240
know what I mean? And so if it
meets all of that, then I am. So
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00:42:51,300 --> 00:42:51,630
this
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is what happens live events,
this is what happens.
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It's, it's a real thing. So and
finally, I would say I try I
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work, I remain grounded in
myself, I know who I am. And so
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00:43:06,510 --> 00:43:10,470
I'm able to create really clear
boundary so that I'm not being
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00:43:10,470 --> 00:43:15,990
invasive. Lorie talked about
how, you know, when people trust
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00:43:15,990 --> 00:43:20,910
you, you you have a
responsibility to maintain your
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00:43:20,910 --> 00:43:25,020
sense of you so that you are
not, you know, invading their
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00:43:25,020 --> 00:43:31,020
space and, and and just invading
their space. So those are the
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00:43:31,020 --> 00:43:35,790
things that I do. I'm mindful,
I'm intentional. And I am I find
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balance and then grounded.
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Thank you go. Thank you. Now,
Lorie, let's come to you. Now if
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I can ask you to to unmute. And
we've got a couple of minutes
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because we want to leave 15
minutes for our wonderful
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questions that are coming in. So
could you please give some
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practical tips for all of our
participants who are here today?
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Well,
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let's see in two minutes or
less, I'm going to just two
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favourites to favourites. One is
what I call the pause practice.
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I just did it after that
incoming phone call I had to do
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the pause practice. So the pause
and I'm going to give the
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acronym just so people can kind
of get it. I use the acronym
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RSVP, the French répondez s'il
vous plait so how do we respond?
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So the pause practice the R is
you recognise your trigger. The
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S is you stop. In Chinese
medicine we say where you do buy
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non to and you stop. The V is a
little cheat on the acronym. It
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stands for reverse. So you
reverse awareness and you say
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how am I You know, how am I
doing you care about yourself.
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And then P, you just get
present. So, recognise, stop,
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reverse awareness, get present.
And through that pause, the
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heart can speak. Okay, and so
that's one tool. Oh gosh, the
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other one is to recognise that
sometimes there are what the
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Chinese would call ghosts that
actually need to be tended from
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our ancestry, that that's a real
thing. We don't think about
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ghosts the way they did, but we
think about psychological
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complexes. So I'm a big fan of
letter writing to our ancestors
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as a as a form of healing
process. And that's a big topic,
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but I wanted to mention it if
you feel like there's someone in
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your lineage, that you're
carrying something of theirs,
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you can write them a letter and
give that over and do some kind
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of a healing ceremony because of
course, in Chinese culture,
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that's a very big piece of the
healing process. And last but
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not least, I want to talk about
our favourite healing point and
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it's in Kigo, the Palace of
Weariness. This is everybody's
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friend, right at the centre of
your palm, loose fist, where
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your middle finger falls, this
is your heart protector point.
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And you can touch it with rose
oil or rescue remedy. And it
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will have an immediate effect of
calming our little red birds so
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they can come back into the
heart space.
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Beautiful, beautiful. So much
for that this is one of my
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favourite points of the body.
Thank you so much for sharing
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that. It is now time for us to
open up the floor to our
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wonderful participants and to
hear some of their questions. So
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I'm going to try my very best to
answer them all we've, we've
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currently got five questions in
we will, we will answer them as
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we go along. So let us start
with an anonymous attendee has
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asked this question. For you,
Gail. Are there restorative Yoga
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practices beyond the physical
poses that can be effective for
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treating race based traumatic
stress, and wondering if there
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are techniques that can be
borrowed for other modalities if
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props aren't available?
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Well yes, I have become an
expert, by the way in teaching
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resource viewable without
prompts you to me, you don't
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have to have them. But
meditation is a very calming
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healing practice. It takes again
about 20 minutes for the mind to
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come to stillness. When the mind
comes to rest. The when the mind
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comes to stillness, the body is
at rest, and stress releases
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when that occurs, and sometimes
there's more mind chatter. So
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people will say, Well, I'm not
I'm really not meditating. But
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it's not true, it is stress
releasing, and it can come
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through in the form of mind
chatter, it can come through in
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the form of an unexpected
emotion, you might burst into
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laughter. You might I call it
the spirit of Bali, that
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00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,670
revisiting visiting us, you
know, you might become angry,
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00:48:35,670 --> 00:48:39,600
you might burst into tears. But
that but it's important to
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recognise that what's happening
is stress is releasing. And the
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practice is whether you're doing
a restorative yoga practice or a
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meditation practice, or any
other mode healing modality, the
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the practice is to be able to
remain in the experience while
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the release is occurring. In
other words, instead of becoming
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reactive and jumping out of it,
you learn to stay in it and then
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the stress releases and guess
what, once that happens, it
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00:49:13,530 --> 00:49:17,340
doesn't come back. It really
doesn't. It may come back in a
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lesser form at another time, but
whatever you're releasing in
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that way, when the nervous
system lets go or when the heart
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opens to receive you know, it
doesn't it that's the healing
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that's what happens. So yes, so
there you know, there are a lot
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of ways restorative Yoga is one
way that is just one way and it
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happens to be my go to but
again, meditation is another
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00:49:47,850 --> 00:49:50,970
way. I'm sure acupuncture is
another way I don't want to
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speak out of school here because
I'm not an acupuncturist, nor
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00:49:54,510 --> 00:49:57,960
have I ever experienced
acupuncture but you know, I mean
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there there are a lot of ways to
release stress, and it's not yet
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let me say these people are not
coming to me, usually to say And
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now I'd like to get rid of race
based stress and trauma. That is
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not typically what that is not
usually what motivates people to
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come. But what happens as you
become more as healing occurs,
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then these awarenesses of trauma
that you may not have even
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00:50:30,930 --> 00:50:35,520
remembered, begin to surface.
And now you can, you can
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00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:38,160
continue the healing process you
can do through journaling.
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00:50:38,820 --> 00:50:41,610
therapeutic journaling is a very
powerful tool. So
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thank you. Thank you so much.
Now, I'm aware that we've got
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currently five unanswered
questions. And we've got 10
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minutes left before the end of
today's webinar, rather. So
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please just be mindful of that.
Now, we've got a question here
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from Christina Olson-Howley, to
both of you. And thanks to Dr.
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Parker and Lorie to share for
your knowledge and wisdom. What
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tips can you give to people who
are triggered in the moment to
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reset and recenter to stay
within body. And in the moment,
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I find that as a woman of
colour, there are moments of
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00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:26,930
micro aggression that trigger me
and shifts my energy. And it
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00:51:26,930 --> 00:51:31,160
takes me a moment to reset. I'd
love your suggestions. So let's
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hear from you first, Lorie, and
then we'll come to you Gail.
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Well, actually, I'd love to hear
from Gail on this one first, and
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then I'll chime in.
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Yeah. Well, if if let's if we
stick within the Yoga paradigm,
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but we don't have to yoga is a
breath practice. It doesn't
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matter what form of Yoga you're
practising. And so you always
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come to the breath. Always.
It's, it's when you feel
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yourself being triggered. If you
can catch it before you explode.
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And even after you've exploded,
if you've done that, you come to
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00:52:10,050 --> 00:52:14,670
your breath. And that's that's
that's the way that really is
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the way you RSVP.
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Yeah, exactly. No, I'm totally
with you on that Gail you know,
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that is why having some kind of
inner cultivation practice,
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whether it's Yoga or whether
it's some kind of sitting
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practice that you do, and it
doesn't have to be, you know,
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long hours on a cushion.
Honestly, it can be five or 10
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minutes a day of watching your
breath, then it's in you
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already. And it's like a muscle
so the trigger happens. You go
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to the breath, I totally agree
with that. And to that I would
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add one of my go-tos is Bach
flower remedy rescue remedy
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bought Bach flower essences.
It's a little I actually have
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one right here. And I don't have
stock in the company. But it's a
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great product that you can get
in most health food stores. It's
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International. It's in England,
it's an all over and it's made
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from flowers that will calm you
down, they bring the little
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birds of the Shen back to the
heart. You can take it on your
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tongue or drop it on that point
that I mentioned palace of
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weariness. And there are other
points in key go to that if
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you're interested in specific
points, but something physical,
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something with the breath. And
then these flower allies are
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really another helpful hint.
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Thank you so much. We've got
three more questions and six
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minutes to press my positive
wariness together. I think it
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all the excitement. So let's go
to a question from Dureena
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Patten. Hi, Lorie, do you
believe birth trauma can affect
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the soul in this way affecting
attachment?
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Wow in two minutes or one minute
or less? That is a huge
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question. Yes, I believe that
birth trauma affects the soul.
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Yes, it can affect attachment.
And yes, it can be healed. It's
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such a big question. I would
need to know when it happened,
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how old the person is. But I
would definitely say finding a
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really good acupuncturist who
works on the soul and spirit
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level would be a good place to
start and we do have a listing
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of practitioners on our website.
A new possibility.com. So that's
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a place that and also, you can
send a query there. So it's just
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a very big question, but I do
believe it, and I do believe
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that you can work with it.
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Thank you. Thank you, Lorie.
Now, we have a question here
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from Caroline Earch. There's a
small amount of evidence around
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trauma, changing cells, and
therefore being passed down
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through generations. Do you have
an experience of this with your
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clients? Who would like to who
feels like to answer this,
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I would jump in. And then I'd
love to hear it get what you
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would say. But I don't, I don't
believe it's changing cells,
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it's actually an epigenetic
change on the on the gene code,
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it doesn't change the gene code.
It's like, trauma leaves these,
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what I think of as little sticky
notes, they're little tags that
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get placed on the genes that
shut down or turn on certain
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kinds of genetic memory. So it
does get passed down. And you
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can think of it like our
ancestors leave us these sticky
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notes. And that's part of the
work of healing trauma is
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actually reading what's on the
sticky note, and then taking the
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sticky note away, if you want to
think of it that way. And
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that's, again, the Chinese knew
this, they knew the trauma was
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passed through generations, and
they would work with it
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ritually. And now, neuroscience,
and modern science is actually
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able to identify the changes
that are happening there.
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And what the Yogis say is that
when we do our own healing,
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we're healing the seven
generations behind us, and the
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seven generations before ahead
of us. And so that's why it's so
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important for each of us to do
our own individual healing work.
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And we do it in community also.
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Beautiful, absolutely beautiful.
Our final question, I'm
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interested in hearing more about
creating boundaries in the
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treatment room, specifically
with regards to trauma in a
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loving and kind way. And we've
got, we've got a bit of so for
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this. So let's, let's start with
you, Gail.
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So how do we create boundaries
within the treating treatment
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room? Yes,
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creating boundaries in a loving
and kind way? How do we create
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and maintain boundaries?
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Well, again, I think that we
have to, we have to start, I
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always start with self, you
know, am I compassionate? And
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kind and clear within myself? Do
I honour my own boundary? When I
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hear my voice when I feel no
inside my body? Do I honour it?
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Or do I overrule it? Do I? So I
think again, I just think it has
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to start with self with me
knowing that I'm me, and I'm not
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you. That's, I mean, that's
where it starts. Really? I'm me.
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I'm not you. And then we evolve
from well, where empathy comes
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in then is, well, I'm somewhat
like you and where the spirit
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comes in is, I'm nothing but
you, but we don't start we don't
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start there. So the boundary is
I am me. You are you. We are two
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souls meeting and connecting and
sharing to understand one
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another. So I think that I don't
know if that's helpful to you. I
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just think it's knowing your
own. You have to know you. First
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you have to know what you are
willing to. What is put up with?
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Yeah.
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Do you have any. Lorie, do you
have any final words to close
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today's programme?
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Well, I do want to just add to
what Gail just said, I love the
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breakdown. And I do want to say
that if that question is coming
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from a practitioner, I have an
extensive course on exactly that
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topic. A spirit a heart based
approach to boundaries in the
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treatment room. So it's on it is
at our side. possibility.com and
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it's, you know, kind of the
product of many, many years of
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work in that in that arena. So I
wanted to just add that piece.
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I'm gonna teach so much. I would
like to end today's programme,
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but before we do, I would like
to remind everybody that coming
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up on the ninth, the 18th of
November, that's the 18th of
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01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:35,940
November, we have got a
fabulous, fabulous live webinar.
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01:00:36,270 --> 01:00:39,990
We've currently have an early
bird discount for that. So so if
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01:00:39,990 --> 01:00:43,440
you book early, you'll be
willingly discount, right? And
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01:00:43,440 --> 01:00:47,880
that is on no pause and women's
health, cross disciplinary
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01:00:47,880 --> 01:00:52,770
conversations on whole person's
care for women. And that is
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01:00:52,770 --> 01:00:57,360
being led by Brian Gross and
Petra Cavalli, Shelly Prasco,
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01:00:57,540 --> 01:01:03,030
and Annika Sips. Just a couple
more bits before we get and
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today's session is going to be
emailed to video form, so you
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can enjoy it. And we're also
please do you register for that
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digital goodie bag? Because it's
brimming. The goodie bag is
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brimming with very, very good
things. I'll now. Now I'd like
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to end by saying a very big
thank you to our two wonderful
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guests, Lorie Dechar and Dr.
Gail Parker, thank you so much
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for sharing your wisdom with us.
So very generously. Thank you.
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I'd also like to say a very big
thank you to our marvellous
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marvellous participants
thanking, engaging for joining
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with us today. And I'd also like
to say at this point, a very big
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thank you to Suzanne, she's the
lady lurking behind the Singing
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Dragon logo and she's been
absolutely fabulous in helping
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to pull this event together. And
a final big thank you to Singing
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Dragon for hosting this event.
It's been an absolute pleasure,
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sending you lots of love,
sending out to you and goodbye.
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And thank you so much for coming
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Thanks, everyone.
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Well Hello, everyone. Hello, and
a very, very warm welcome to
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you.
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Thank you so much for joining us
here on today's showing up safe
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Singing Dragon 15th birthday
event. It's absolutely wonderful
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to have you with us here today.
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I'm so delighted to welcome you
to this very, very special
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event. I said Singing Dragon is
15 years old. And to mark this
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wonderful, wonderful momentous
occasion. We've programmed in a
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series of one hour discussion
events, when you will get to
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meet some of our fantastic
authors. And to find out more
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about their areas of expertise,
we really hope that these events
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will help to inform your
understanding of differing
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health modalities, and to
discover how they can not only
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profoundly change the lives of
our patients, but how big of a
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major impact on transforming the
communities in which we live. We
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hope that after today's event,
you'll come away learning more
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about yourself the vital role
that you have in the therapeutic
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process, and also with some
eminently practical skills and
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tips that you can immediately
enrich your practice with. We
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also hope that today's event
will spark some cross
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disciplinary conversations. And
that also it will provide a
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wonderful opportunity for us to
learn from each other. And
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already in the chat box. I'm
seeing that we've got so many
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people here who come with so
many different different skills.
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So hello to Padma from Oxford,
who is an acupuncturist and a
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yoga teacher. We have Kate
Sherman from Pittsburgh, who's a
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Shiatsu practitioner and a
licenced therapist. And dorina
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pattern is an acupuncturist and
a cranial sacral therapist, a
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women's health physiotherapist
and a primitive under primitive
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reflex therapists. So we've got
so many wonderful people in the
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room. And thank you so much for
joining us today.
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The main topics of today's
discussion will be showing up
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safe, how yoga and acupuncture
can help our trauma patients and
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the vital importance of inner
work and self reflection in
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order to make the most of what
we do. Now at this moment, I
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would like to see two bits of
housekeeping. The first is that
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if you use closed captions,
please click on this CC link at
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the bottom of the screen. And
also we're going to be recording
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today's today's presentation so
you can put down your pens, you
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can put down your notes, you can
sit back and enjoy and engage
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with prozesse. Now, on to some
introductions. My name is Kevin
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Durjan. And I'm an acupuncture
practitioner based in South
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London. I'm also a broadcaster
for UK health radio, and I
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present the weekly show
acupuncture for them. Now it's
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my goal today to facilitate the
discussion with our expert
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guests. And to ensure that you
get to have your say so just as
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my wonderful colleague Suzanne
has put into the chat box.
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Please do submit your questions
nice and early so that we can
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really get the discussion
moving, programmed in plenty of
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time for your questions at the
end of today's seminar that a
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celebration starts now at 4pm
Eastern Time 9pm 8pm UK time and
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it will end in one hour's time.
So without further ado, let us
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meet with our fantastic guests
today. Dr. Gail Parker is an
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author, psychologist, educator,
and certified yoga teacher and
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yoga therapist. She is the
author of restorative yoga for
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ethnic and race based stress and
trauma and the forthcoming book,
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ethnic transforming ethnic and
race based traumatic stress with
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yoga. Now Dr. Gail Parker's
focus is on how to support
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emotional balance and wellbeing
for those directly and
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indirectly impact by ethnic and
race based stress and trauma and
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also to offer tools that aid in
the processing of stressful
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experiences and in trauma
recovery. A very warm welcome
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Dr. Gail Parker, thank you for
joining us. Thank you for
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inviting me.
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Well, I'm just absolutely
absolutely thrilled. Thank you.
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I would now like to welcome our
next guest, Lorie Dechar. Lorie
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Dechar is an alchemical healer,
a mentor, a dream tender, a
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poetic scholar and an artist
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With over 30 years of practice
in the field of Chinese
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medicine. She's the author of
Kigo. One of my favourite books
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by the way, exploring the
spiritual essence of acupuncture
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points through the changing
seasons, the alchemy of inner
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work, a guide for turning
illness and suffering, in true
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health and well being.
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Five spirits out cap acupuncture
for psychological and spiritual
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healing. One current focus of
Lorie's work is the Taoist
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concept of the poet's soul. And
the doorway, these lower souls
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provides to healing ancestral
trauma. A very warm welcome,
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Lorie Dechar. Thank you so much,
Kevin, it's lovely to be here
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with you and, and Gail. And
looking forward to the
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conversation.
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I must say to everybody who is
who is watching today, all of
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our wonderful participants, your
in for an absolute treat,
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because these women are masters
in their respective fields. And
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what we're going to discuss
today has never been more
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relevant. So let's kick off our
discussion. So I'd like to, I'd
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like to first start quite broad
and come up with a discussion of
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trauma from your, from your
different perspectives. So let's
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start with you. And Gail, could
you explain the difference
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between race based stress and
trauma and post traumatic stress
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disorder?
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Yes, and I think it's an
important distinction to make,
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because most of us working in
these health professions
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understand a little bit on some
of us quite a bit about Post
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Traumatic Stress Disorder. But a
neglected area of trauma and
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stress is based on racial stress
and trauma. And now is a
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particularly important time
because we're seeing that it's
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interesting because
historically, during global
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pandemics, xenophobia and racism
increase, and we're actually
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seeing that and we're living
that and this is a global
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problem. This is not just a
problem. That's local to what
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wherever you happen to be. And
so what I wanted to do was to
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share with people that that race
based stress and trauma are
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real. And I'll talk I'll tell
you in a minute how they're
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different from PTSD. And also
just to bring awareness to that
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fact that this is a thing that
exists, and that it's unique.
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Race-based traumatic stress
injury is considered an injury,
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it is not considered a
psychological disorder. So to
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treat it as if it's a disorder
as if there's something wrong
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with you for having the
experience you're having re
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traumatises someone who is
experiencing racial stress and
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trauma, race based traumatic
stress injury is regarded as at
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it's caused by an external
racial events, something has
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happened to you, that is race
related that has caused you
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emotional pain that has caused
emotional injury. It also
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happens to be something that
people of colour, and
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particularly black people
worldwide experience in an
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ongoing, cumulative, recurrent
way. It's not a one time event
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that happens. It's based on
social exclusion, which for
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human beings, as we know, is one
of the most painful, emotionally
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painful experiences that we can
have. we're hardwired for
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connection, not for
disconnection. So when you are
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put to the margins, when you are
excluded when you are ignored
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when you are minimised when
you're rendered invisible. This
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is an extremely emotionally
painful, damaging experience.
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And over time, it can become
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,
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but it doesn't start there. So
post traumatic stress disorder
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is a psychiatric disorder. It is
usually based on this. This is
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the definition. This is the
clinical definition that I'm
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giving you. It's based on
usually a life threatening event
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that the person has not been
able to digest or process. And
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so they continue having this
recurring, this reemergence of
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the trauma, because it isn't
being digested. It's not being
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internalised. And alkalized in a
way that can make it
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healing for you.
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stressor in post traumatic
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stress disorder is a life
threatening event, the core
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stressor in race based traumatic
stress is an emotional injury
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that's based on a racial
experience. And so who decides
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what that is the person who's
having the experience. It's not
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up to us to decide, well, that
really didn't happen to you. I
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was listening to actually
someone was offering a book talk
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on the book that I have written
about this. And a young teacher
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began to talk and she said, I
think I made a mistake. One of
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my students, a large, a tall,
big, young man, should the
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teacher swipe this kid was
black, was acting out in class.
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And so she took them outside to
talk to him. And when one of the
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one one of the security guards
pass them by the security guards
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said to her, are you okay? And
this kid looked at her and said,
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See, that's what I've been
trying to tell you. In other
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words, he felt the the insult,
he experienced that as an
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insult. She said that she felt
terrible, because she made a
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mistake by explaining demo was
because you were acting out. Not
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because you're black. And she
realised in this conversation
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that that, that she had made a
mistake. So that's a good thing.
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Because what she said is, I will
do that again. So do you want
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more? So I keep talking
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about actually, actually,
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as as you were talking, Gail,
Lorie was feeling it. So I'd now
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like to come to Lorie. How does
what Dr. Gail Parker's
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how, how does watch she's just
been saying connect with, with
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your understanding and the
concept of the posole?
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Oh, well, first of all, I just
want to appreciate what Dr.
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Parker has said, I'm just
hearing that clarity of
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breakdown and distinctions is so
so helpful. And of course, I've
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read some of the cases from your
book, Gail, but this particular
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story I had never heard you
share. And um, so it's just
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incredibly moving, really moving
and so amazing that we can
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learn, you know, that we all can
learn, but especially as a white
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person to say, yeah, we are
going to make mistakes. You
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know, we we can't know what it's
like to live in an other than
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white skin. You know, being
Jewish, I have my own heritages
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of trauma. But again, at this
point, I live in a privileged
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skin. And so we can't know, we
have to be willing to admit that
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we're making a mistake, to learn
to really feel into so that's a
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beautiful story. And thank you
for sharing that. As far as
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taking it back to my work, which
is there is a large focus on
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trauma, healing from trauma,
working with the neurological
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and sort of emotional,
psychological, spiritual effects
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of trauma. So it's not
specifically race based or
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ethnic based trauma. I want to
just say, and this is actually
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coming out of Gail's book, but
where you once again makes such
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a great clarification, race
based trauma as opposed to other
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trauma, the differences not
physiology, but context. And,
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you know, that's so helpful to
understand because, as you said,
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in race based trauma, you're
living in a context of, you
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know, having to move through
predominantly white spaces, and
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the traumas and the
microaggressions are nor, you
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know, are considered normal by
white culture. So, like you
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said, to begin to say, No, I'm
not crazy the culture is, is
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needs to change. But staying
with that idea that the
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difference is not one of
physiology, but of context. What
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I want to say is through my
studies of Chinese medicine,
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what I have discovered is that
Chinese physicians, ancient
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physicians 3000 years ago, maybe
even more, I would say if we
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looked at some of the classics,
we can say we're going back even
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more possibly than 3000 years,
we're already seeing the effects
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of trauma. So, and they
described it through the lens of
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the medicine, Kevin, that you
and I practice, and many people
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in the audience practice Chinese
medicine. But again, it's a
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filter, we're looking at the
same neurological,
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physiological, and endocrine
changes, our organisms have not,
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you know, on that level
fundamentally changed. So what
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the Chinese saw, and I think
it's, again, they were looking
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through the lens of their own
consciousness, which is what we
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could call a mythical magical
consciousness, a very symbolic
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medicine, that, at first may
seem quite different. But
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actually Western, I always say
Western medicine and Western
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science is now catching up with
Chinese medicine. And I'll
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mention that later when we look
at the field of epigenetics but
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backing up so the Chinese what
they saw was that when a person
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experienced that kind of an
digestible, external event,
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either whether it's an invasion
by a boundary violation by a
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family member, a tremendous
climactic events, cultural
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upheavals, there's all sorts of
ways that our organisms are
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subjected to events that we
can't, we just can't metabolise
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too much to bear, it's outside,
the norm of my experience, or
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what my body knows should be,
for example, a family member who
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should be protective, who rather
is abusive or invasive, we can't
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metabolise that we're not meant
to.
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So, our organisms have created
an amazing capacity to, to do
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something with that. And in
western psychology, they'll call
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it dissociate, we put it aside.
In Western psychology, again,
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they'll say, well, it goes into
the unconscious. What the
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Chinese said, is that, when we
experience this kind of
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traumatic event, a part of me,
which they call the Shen, or the
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spirit, a part of my spirit,
actually leaves it's, it's meant
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to rest in my heart. But when I
experienced trauma, and most of
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us have experienced some kind of
traumatic event, and you know,
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it's like a shock to your heart,
that shot to the heart is
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actually in our medicine,
leaving the arm, a spark of our
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spirit, called the Shen spirit,
or light goes back up to the
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stars where it's safe. And
another part of us which they
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call the post saw, which is, as
you mentioned, Kevin, one of my
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big areas of interest now, which
is the body soul actually takes
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the memory takes the material,
and kind of puts it in the body
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below the level of conscious
awareness. Again, Western
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psychology we say goes into the
body goes into what does that
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mean goes into the body, it goes
into the more primal aspects of
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the brain and nervous system,
what's called the reptilian
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brain, the limbic limbic system,
but in Chinese medicine, we say
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goes to the posts of this body
soul that actually will hold it
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kind of encrusted or put it down
under the earth. Meanwhile, the
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Shen spirits are light spirit
has gone to the stars. So you
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see a kind of often a kind of
blankness, a kind of confusion
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state, people have a hard time
talking about what happened. And
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these aspects of the soul from a
Chinese medical perspective,
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will kind of hold that
configuration which takes a
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large toll on the body on our
essences. You know, it's not,
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it's not the holding pattern
that is most conducive to life,
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but it allows us to survive
until we create conditions,
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whether it's in a therapeutic
situation or restorative yoga
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pose with
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Dr. Parker, this, I think that
this is a wonderful time for us
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to move on. But I would
actually, at this point, like to
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mention that if you would like
to feed it for questions, we do
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have questions and answers at
the end of today's session. So
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please do and put them into the
Q&A box. And we will, we will
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draw into the discussion because
we want this very much to be a
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into an integrated and an
interactive session. So moving
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on from what you were saying,
Lorie Dechar let's now turn to
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Gail and find out what is it
about yoga, that makes it so
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effective at supporting
communities that have a living
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with trauma?
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Well, yoga is it's it's, it's a
healing practice, it's a
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transformative practice. So in
the West, it has become, at
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least in the United States, it
has become a physical practice.
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It's a practice of physical
exercise. But it is Yoga is so
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much more than that. And when I
was introduced to yoga, which
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was 15 years ago, I was not it
was not introduced as a form of
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physical exercise. It was a
holistic practice that spoke to
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the physical body, to the energy
body, to the mental emotional
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body to the intuitive wisdom
body, and to the spiritual body,
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the bliss body is what the
Yogi's call it. And so it was a
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complete practice. And so that
was my introduction to yoga. So
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I never isolated the physical
practice from all of that.
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restorative Yoga is a very
specific, someone talk about
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restorative yoga, I think all
yoga can be restorative, and can
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be transformative. But all Yoga
is not restorative yoga.
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restorative Yoga is a very
specific form of yoga, that uses
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props to support the body in
holding postures for extended
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periods of time. It's done in
silence for the most part,
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although some people like to
play music, but it's, it's done
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in silence. It's done in in
stillness, and the entire
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practice, while it's being
supported by bolsters and
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blankets, and creating all just
comfort in the physical body. So
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there's no stretching, there's
no muscle energy being used at
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all, you're trying to reduce
stress. Not there's anything
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wrong with some amounts of
stress. But that's not what
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restorative Yoga is doing. So
it's stimulating the
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parasympathetic nervous system,
which is the part of our nervous
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system that allows us to rest
and allows us to feel safe. In
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our resting when people are
under chronic stress, which race
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based traumatic stress injury
can be a cry is tends to be a
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chronic stressor. Resting, does
not feel safe, when your nervous
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system is on high alert, whether
you know it or not, when it's on
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high alert, most of the time, it
doesn't feel comfortable to come
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to rest, it sounds like it
should. But when you are in
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fight flight mode, most of the
time, whether you know it or
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not, that's your, that's your
comfort zone. That's where you
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feel safest. It's not healthy,
though. And that becomes
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problematic. And so these
restorative practices support
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people who are not used to
feeling comfortable in their own
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vulnerability, who are not used
to feel uncomfortable in and
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safe during rest, in getting the
wrist, the restoration, the
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growth, that they deserve, the
reparation and the good, the
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repair, and the growth they
deserve. So that's how this
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particular practice can support
individuals, the individuals
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make up the community. So when
we used to be practising
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together in studios, and now
we're practising together
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online, so the community it's a
different configuration of
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community. Community is not a
location, it's not a place it's
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it's a group of people who come
together with a common interest,
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who are supporting each other
in, in the in being healthy and
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achieving their goals and coming
to a deeper level of
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understanding and communion
connection with each other. So
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that's what the restorative
practice does. That's what it
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supports. And anybody can do it.
See you it's you don't have to
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To you, anyone can do it.
Anybody can do restorative yoga.
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One of the poses, for those of
you who may not know restorative
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Yoga is you, you lay on your
back, you put a lovely blanket
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roll under your knees, you put a
nice pillow under your head, you
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can support your arms by laying
on more blankets that you have,
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and you breathe, and you breathe
and you breathe, and you evoke
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the relaxation response. So let
me just say that
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physiologically, the relaxation
response is a real thing. When
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it it takes about 20 minutes in
the practice for that to click
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in, your heart rate slows,
metabolism slows, brainwaves,
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slow, breath becomes more
efficient, and and there you
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are, there's there becomes
that's where the healing occurs.
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That was before us talking about
this community. I always believe
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that these virtual events, there
is something tangible and
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something real about it, because
we're all pouring in our energy
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into the same focus. nodding
again, as Gail was talking, how
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does how does acupuncture
support an individual? And also
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how does acupuncture support
communities healing with trauma?
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Well, again, I mean, I'm just
taking in some of what Gail
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shared and I feel like, the key
thing I mean, first of all, just
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listening and just hearing about
that restorative pose, I start
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to feel my nervous system calm
down. It's so miraculous. But
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that's exactly where I had sort
of, in my closing to say we need
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to create the conditions of
safety, showing up save, where
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the the Shen, this speck of
spirit can actually come back to
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the heart I often talk about the
Shen is these little birds, and
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the heart is their nest. And
when from or big emotions come,
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you know, the trees are shaking
in their storm winds, these
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little birds fly off, which they
do. So we're looking to create
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conditions of safety, conditions
of holding, where these birds
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can come back to their nest in
the heart. And where this
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material that has been held in
the pOH can be metabolised.
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lying down on the treatment
table, when you have good
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rapport with your practitioner
is the beginning of the healing
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process. I know myself went even
after 35 years of practice and
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being treated by many people,
when I lie down on the treatment
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table with a practitioner, I
trust, that same relaxation
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process already begins. Then in
addition, there are treatments
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we are not obviously going to go
into them here but there are
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treatments specifically aimed at
clearing trauma, even very deep
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trauma, through the various
meridians and organs where it's
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held. Again, people in the
audience may know some of these
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and then there's the use of
spirit points, which is a lot of
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what my book with singing dragon
is about. And I think of spirit
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point is like it's it's an open
gateway into the mysteries. It's
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this is the way many of these
points tell us use this point
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for trauma hearts seven Shen
men, what's the name telling us
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this is the gateway that the
Spirit can come back through. So
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at the end, we'll give a couple
of points. But that, you know,
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again, this is in the book, it's
in Kigo. You can read about them
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and incorporate them even if
you're not a practitioner. It's
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you can use these points with
flower essences with oil simply
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with touch, and they will open
the gateways for these spirits
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to return. As far as community
work, I there are amazing
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community acupuncture clinics
doing incredible work in inner
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cities, in places there's
acupuncturist without borders,
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doing your acupuncture in all
over the world. That is one of
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the ways The Chinese medicine
can function in this work. But
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for me, I believe that a large
part of the healing happens in
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the treatment room, but it also
happens in community. So
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actually, my husband, Benjamin
Fox, and I have started an
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online community called the
inner healing circle, add a new
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possibility.com, which we'd love
that everyone to check out. And
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it really is a virtual healing
community for practitioners and
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patients looking to do this
work. And we've got meetups and
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courses and amazing faculty. I
think one of our teachers,
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Lindsey Fauntleroy is with us
today. So shout out to Lindsey.
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And it's a growing vibrant
community of healing.
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Thank you, thank you. And again,
so needed at this time in the
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world evolution. Lorie, you
mentioned just then the concept
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of showing up safe now is
something that I would very much
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like to return to you, Dr. Gail
Parker, to explain what this
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means. And why it is important
for dealing with trauma to show
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up safe to their practices. So
showing up safe is not just
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important to dealing with
trauma. Showing up safe is
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important to being in connection
with human beings, your most
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intimate partner to a stranger
on the street. So what does that
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mean showing up safe, it means
that I, I, each individual
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within the community
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needs to cultivate an inner
awareness of their own calmness,
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their own sense of peacefulness,
their own sense of being a safe
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person to be around. In other
words, none of us wants to be
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the hot stove that nobody wants
to touch. And yet, we can beat
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that if we're not being mindful
if we're not paying attention.
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And so it for me, that's that is
a practice just showing up safe.
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It involves modulating your
voice for what well, I, you
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know, I don't want to do the
cosmetic stuff. But it does have
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to do with modulating your
voice, the way you the way you
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approach people, even your
physical appearance. just paying
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attention to how you the energy
that you're communicating, when
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you're in relationship to other
people is is the beginning of
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doing that. But you have to you
have to engage in inner
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practices to do that, you have
to be safe in other words, so if
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you go to Lorie, for example,
for an acupuncture treatment,
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and she is agitated and upset,
you will feel that if you've
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come to me for a
psychotherapeutic intervention,
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or even a yoga therapeutic
intervention, and I'm agitated,
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you will feel that, whether I'm
aware of it or not. And so each
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of us has a responsibility to
come to that place of inner
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peace and calm before we go out
into the world. Because our
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energy, we co regulate each
other's nervous systems, we just
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do. So if you're dealing with so
when people come to you for
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treatment, usually they're
anxious, I mean, people aren't
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usually coming in thrilled to be
there, at least not initially.
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And so it's critically important
for us to be grounded, to be
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grounded in that sense of inner
peace, that sense of
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authenticity, a willingness on
our own to be vulnerable because
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we're asking you to be
vulnerable and this is how we
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begin to cultivate and build a
sense of trust and it's the
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nervous system that is
responding it doesn't it doesn't
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matter what I'm what sort of
matters what I'm saying you know
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what I mean that that that
matters, but what we're speaking
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to is the nervous system so from
my nervous system is bent out of
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shape then that's going to be
communicated to the individual
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that I'm approaching and so then
I'm not showing up safe so
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creating that you know, we hear
a lot about creating safe space.
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So we learn you know, I don't
you learn I guess how to do I
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don't know how I don't teach
that how to create a safe space.
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But yeah, you know, so I know
some people do. There are all
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these rules and regulations
about how to do that. If you
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aren't safe, if you are not
grounded and centred in your own
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sense of inner peace and safety
and calm and love, heart
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centred. You're not safe, you
just start. So that's first use
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on me. Thank
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you beautifully, beautifully put
beautifully put. Lorie, how does
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this resonate with your, with
your understandings and your
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philosophy on the importance of,
of, of doing inner work?
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Well, I think it's good that
Gail has is articulated so much
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about that already. And again, I
just I love hearing you speak
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kale, it's just so moving and
beautiful and true. And I'd love
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what you said about well, I
don't, I don't exactly create
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safe space, and you don't have
to because you are safe space,
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you be safe space. And that is
the work and how do we do? How
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do we become safe space. And,
and then through that becoming,
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create that environment, that's
through the inner work. So
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again, what Gail said about
we're transmitting Of course
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content, what I say how I use
language, my care with the
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language is part of the creation
of a safe environment. But even
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beyond that is what's happening
at the level of the nervous
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system. So that is the post soul
again, the body soul, the body
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soul is reading so much data
that the conscious mind couldn't
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possibly be taking in. So the
environment, the body language,
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my capacity to come to my own
calm through inner practice. And
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then also what's being
transmitted through the heart,
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which again, is is a kind of
practice that agitation, Gail,
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that you spoke about, from a
Chinese perspective would be
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saying that the heart is filled
with emotion, it's filled with
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agitated emotions, what happens
then, those little birds are
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like, well, there's no room for
me in the nest, there's no room
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for the spirit, the light of the
Shen to actually guide what
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happens in the treatment room. I
need to have practices that I do
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regularly, kind of housekeeping
practices, where I clear those
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agitated emotions, where I have
ways to actually clear the heart
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space so that my spirit can
reside there. So I can create
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the kind of environment and this
is both mythic symbolic, but
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it's literal. And as I said, you
know, Western medicine's
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catching up with Chinese
medicine now, because they, they
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can now measure the oscillations
and vibrations of the heart,
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that it's now known, we're
affecting each other. Definitely
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18 inches, which is the mother
baby distance, measurable to
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five feet. But Kevin, you and I
are doing it right now. And
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Gail, you and I are doing it. As
I'm looking at your eyes through
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this screen. We're creating
these Shen currents that are
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affecting our hearts and our
bodies right now. So that's,
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that's my response to that
question it or work and of
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course, our you know, lead in
line on our website, his inner
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work leads to outer change. This
work that we do with our own
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nervous systems with our own
hearts, for me, is the first
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step in making change on the
planet.
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Beautiful, beautiful,
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thank you say something.
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Like, how did you come in?
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Yes, you know, I am a fan of
Lorie. No, I just I just I love
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listening to you, Lorie, I love
listening to you. And as I've
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said to you before, if I were in
your if I lived near you, I
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would come and be your client. I
wouldn't really it's sort of
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that, you know, where you just
kind of, I don't know, you meet
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and make this connection and and
you know it when, you know, how
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do you know it's a felt sense?
It's a felt sense.
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Yeah. Yes. You know, and that is
through the activation. That's
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the basis of Yoga, it's the
basis of Chinese medicine. It's
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the basis of all what I call the
alchemical practices. Yeah.
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Now, we've got another five
minutes for our discussion
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before we move on to our
questions and answers. So
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everybody who is taking part and
engaging, we're all engaging in
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today's today's event, please do
use the Q&A box to feed in your
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questions. And we will, we will
invite our wonderful, our
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wonderful specialists, Lorie
Dechar and Dr. Gail Parker to to
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answer those questions. Also, on
the subject of sharing, I would
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like to say that our our the
wonderful Singing Dragon has
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popped into the chat box, a link
to a digital goodie bag. And it
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absolutely is brimming with
wonderful discounts and links
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and wonderful excerpts from from
the books of our expert experts
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here today. So moving on, we've
got a couple more minutes. Let's
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before we move on to our
questions. You mentioned earlier
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on about laying your your
patient deported with blankets
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and helping them to relax. Could
you give us your favourite, your
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favourite practical tips that
our our participants here can
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take away with them?
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Yeah, as far as showing up
safest, I'll give showing up
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safe. If, if that's acceptable.
So one of the things that I do,
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I'll share my practice with you
as what I'll do. So I'm very
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intentional. And making sure
that I do no harm. Now, I'm sure
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that I know see, nobody's
running a perfect game, nobody.
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So I'm sure that there are times
when I cause harm, not just I'm
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not talking about patients, I'm
talking about the people in
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general, I don't just do this in
my work. I am living what I'm
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talking about. So but I'm really
intentional about it. I'm
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really, really intentional about
it and conscious of it. I'm very
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mindful of the language that I
use, and the tone of voice that
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I speak and of showing up really
authentically and speaking the
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truth. And one of the rules I
follow is is it necessary? Is it
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truthful? Is it kind? And does
it improve on the silence, you
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know what I mean? And so if it
meets all of that, then I am. So
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this
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is what happens live events,
this is what happens.
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It's, it's a real thing. So and
finally, I would say I try I
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work, I remain grounded in
myself, I know who I am. And so
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I'm able to create really clear
boundary so that I'm not being
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invasive. Lorie talked about
how, you know, when people trust
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you, you you have a
responsibility to maintain your
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00:43:20,910 --> 00:43:25,020
sense of you so that you are
not, you know, invading their
541
00:43:25,020 --> 00:43:31,020
space and, and and just invading
their space. So those are the
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00:43:31,020 --> 00:43:35,790
things that I do. I'm mindful,
I'm intentional. And I am I find
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balance and then grounded.
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Thank you go. Thank you. Now,
Lorie, let's come to you. Now if
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I can ask you to to unmute. And
we've got a couple of minutes
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because we want to leave 15
minutes for our wonderful
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00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:59,370
questions that are coming in. So
could you please give some
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00:43:59,370 --> 00:44:03,210
practical tips for all of our
participants who are here today?
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Well,
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let's see in two minutes or
less, I'm going to just two
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favourites to favourites. One is
what I call the pause practice.
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I just did it after that
incoming phone call I had to do
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the pause practice. So the pause
and I'm going to give the
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acronym just so people can kind
of get it. I use the acronym
555
00:44:29,690 --> 00:44:36,650
RSVP, the French répondez s'il
vous plait so how do we respond?
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So the pause practice the R is
you recognise your trigger. The
557
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S is you stop. In Chinese
medicine we say where you do buy
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non to and you stop. The V is a
little cheat on the acronym. It
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stands for reverse. So you
reverse awareness and you say
560
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how am I You know, how am I
doing you care about yourself.
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And then P, you just get
present. So, recognise, stop,
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reverse awareness, get present.
And through that pause, the
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heart can speak. Okay, and so
that's one tool. Oh gosh, the
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other one is to recognise that
sometimes there are what the
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Chinese would call ghosts that
actually need to be tended from
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our ancestry, that that's a real
thing. We don't think about
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ghosts the way they did, but we
think about psychological
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complexes. So I'm a big fan of
letter writing to our ancestors
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as a as a form of healing
process. And that's a big topic,
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but I wanted to mention it if
you feel like there's someone in
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your lineage, that you're
carrying something of theirs,
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you can write them a letter and
give that over and do some kind
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of a healing ceremony because of
course, in Chinese culture,
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that's a very big piece of the
healing process. And last but
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not least, I want to talk about
our favourite healing point and
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it's in Kigo, the Palace of
Weariness. This is everybody's
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friend, right at the centre of
your palm, loose fist, where
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your middle finger falls, this
is your heart protector point.
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And you can touch it with rose
oil or rescue remedy. And it
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will have an immediate effect of
calming our little red birds so
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they can come back into the
heart space.
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Beautiful, beautiful. So much
for that this is one of my
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favourite points of the body.
Thank you so much for sharing
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that. It is now time for us to
open up the floor to our
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wonderful participants and to
hear some of their questions. So
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I'm going to try my very best to
answer them all we've, we've
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currently got five questions in
we will, we will answer them as
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we go along. So let us start
with an anonymous attendee has
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asked this question. For you,
Gail. Are there restorative Yoga
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practices beyond the physical
poses that can be effective for
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00:47:33,070 --> 00:47:37,090
treating race based traumatic
stress, and wondering if there
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00:47:37,090 --> 00:47:41,050
are techniques that can be
borrowed for other modalities if
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props aren't available?
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00:47:44,430 --> 00:47:47,640
Well yes, I have become an
expert, by the way in teaching
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resource viewable without
prompts you to me, you don't
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have to have them. But
meditation is a very calming
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healing practice. It takes again
about 20 minutes for the mind to
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come to stillness. When the mind
comes to rest. The when the mind
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comes to stillness, the body is
at rest, and stress releases
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when that occurs, and sometimes
there's more mind chatter. So
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people will say, Well, I'm not
I'm really not meditating. But
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it's not true, it is stress
releasing, and it can come
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00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:24,510
through in the form of mind
chatter, it can come through in
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00:48:24,510 --> 00:48:28,890
the form of an unexpected
emotion, you might burst into
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00:48:28,890 --> 00:48:32,160
laughter. You might I call it
the spirit of Bali, that
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00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,670
revisiting visiting us, you
know, you might become angry,
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00:48:35,670 --> 00:48:39,600
you might burst into tears. But
that but it's important to
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00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:43,770
recognise that what's happening
is stress is releasing. And the
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practice is whether you're doing
a restorative yoga practice or a
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meditation practice, or any
other mode healing modality, the
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00:48:54,030 --> 00:48:59,850
the practice is to be able to
remain in the experience while
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the release is occurring. In
other words, instead of becoming
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reactive and jumping out of it,
you learn to stay in it and then
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the stress releases and guess
what, once that happens, it
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00:49:13,530 --> 00:49:17,340
doesn't come back. It really
doesn't. It may come back in a
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lesser form at another time, but
whatever you're releasing in
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that way, when the nervous
system lets go or when the heart
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00:49:26,340 --> 00:49:35,340
opens to receive you know, it
doesn't it that's the healing
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that's what happens. So yes, so
there you know, there are a lot
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of ways restorative Yoga is one
way that is just one way and it
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happens to be my go to but
again, meditation is another
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00:49:47,850 --> 00:49:50,970
way. I'm sure acupuncture is
another way I don't want to
623
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speak out of school here because
I'm not an acupuncturist, nor
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00:49:54,510 --> 00:49:57,960
have I ever experienced
acupuncture but you know, I mean
625
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there there are a lot of ways to
release stress, and it's not yet
626
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:10,650
let me say these people are not
coming to me, usually to say And
627
00:50:10,650 --> 00:50:14,430
now I'd like to get rid of race
based stress and trauma. That is
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not typically what that is not
usually what motivates people to
629
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come. But what happens as you
become more as healing occurs,
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then these awarenesses of trauma
that you may not have even
631
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remembered, begin to surface.
And now you can, you can
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00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:38,160
continue the healing process you
can do through journaling.
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00:50:38,820 --> 00:50:41,610
therapeutic journaling is a very
powerful tool. So
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thank you. Thank you so much.
Now, I'm aware that we've got
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currently five unanswered
questions. And we've got 10
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minutes left before the end of
today's webinar, rather. So
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00:50:54,830 --> 00:50:58,880
please just be mindful of that.
Now, we've got a question here
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00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:03,860
from Christina Olson-Howley, to
both of you. And thanks to Dr.
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Parker and Lorie to share for
your knowledge and wisdom. What
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00:51:07,910 --> 00:51:12,050
tips can you give to people who
are triggered in the moment to
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reset and recenter to stay
within body. And in the moment,
642
00:51:18,500 --> 00:51:21,920
I find that as a woman of
colour, there are moments of
643
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:26,930
micro aggression that trigger me
and shifts my energy. And it
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00:51:26,930 --> 00:51:31,160
takes me a moment to reset. I'd
love your suggestions. So let's
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hear from you first, Lorie, and
then we'll come to you Gail.
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00:51:34,079 --> 00:51:37,799
Well, actually, I'd love to hear
from Gail on this one first, and
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then I'll chime in.
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00:51:39,750 --> 00:51:44,670
Yeah. Well, if if let's if we
stick within the Yoga paradigm,
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but we don't have to yoga is a
breath practice. It doesn't
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matter what form of Yoga you're
practising. And so you always
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come to the breath. Always.
It's, it's when you feel
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yourself being triggered. If you
can catch it before you explode.
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And even after you've exploded,
if you've done that, you come to
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your breath. And that's that's
that's the way that really is
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the way you RSVP.
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00:52:17,780 --> 00:52:23,390
Yeah, exactly. No, I'm totally
with you on that Gail you know,
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that is why having some kind of
inner cultivation practice,
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00:52:28,820 --> 00:52:33,110
whether it's Yoga or whether
it's some kind of sitting
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practice that you do, and it
doesn't have to be, you know,
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00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:40,340
long hours on a cushion.
Honestly, it can be five or 10
661
00:52:40,340 --> 00:52:44,570
minutes a day of watching your
breath, then it's in you
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00:52:44,570 --> 00:52:50,000
already. And it's like a muscle
so the trigger happens. You go
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00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:54,410
to the breath, I totally agree
with that. And to that I would
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add one of my go-tos is Bach
flower remedy rescue remedy
665
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:02,960
bought Bach flower essences.
It's a little I actually have
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00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:08,240
one right here. And I don't have
stock in the company. But it's a
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00:53:08,240 --> 00:53:12,170
great product that you can get
in most health food stores. It's
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00:53:12,170 --> 00:53:17,990
International. It's in England,
it's an all over and it's made
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00:53:17,990 --> 00:53:21,860
from flowers that will calm you
down, they bring the little
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00:53:21,860 --> 00:53:25,730
birds of the Shen back to the
heart. You can take it on your
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00:53:25,730 --> 00:53:29,300
tongue or drop it on that point
that I mentioned palace of
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weariness. And there are other
points in key go to that if
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00:53:33,950 --> 00:53:38,300
you're interested in specific
points, but something physical,
674
00:53:38,390 --> 00:53:42,560
something with the breath. And
then these flower allies are
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really another helpful hint.
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Thank you so much. We've got
three more questions and six
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minutes to press my positive
wariness together. I think it
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all the excitement. So let's go
to a question from Dureena
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00:53:59,210 --> 00:54:04,400
Patten. Hi, Lorie, do you
believe birth trauma can affect
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the soul in this way affecting
attachment?
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00:54:11,780 --> 00:54:16,730
Wow in two minutes or one minute
or less? That is a huge
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00:54:16,730 --> 00:54:23,420
question. Yes, I believe that
birth trauma affects the soul.
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Yes, it can affect attachment.
And yes, it can be healed. It's
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such a big question. I would
need to know when it happened,
685
00:54:38,780 --> 00:54:44,150
how old the person is. But I
would definitely say finding a
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really good acupuncturist who
works on the soul and spirit
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level would be a good place to
start and we do have a listing
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of practitioners on our website.
A new possibility.com. So that's
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a place that and also, you can
send a query there. So it's just
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00:55:09,170 --> 00:55:12,890
a very big question, but I do
believe it, and I do believe
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that you can work with it.
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00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:20,150
Thank you. Thank you, Lorie.
Now, we have a question here
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00:55:20,180 --> 00:55:25,550
from Caroline Earch. There's a
small amount of evidence around
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00:55:25,580 --> 00:55:30,080
trauma, changing cells, and
therefore being passed down
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00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:33,920
through generations. Do you have
an experience of this with your
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00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:39,290
clients? Who would like to who
feels like to answer this,
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I would jump in. And then I'd
love to hear it get what you
698
00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:48,960
would say. But I don't, I don't
believe it's changing cells,
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00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:55,020
it's actually an epigenetic
change on the on the gene code,
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it doesn't change the gene code.
It's like, trauma leaves these,
701
00:56:00,630 --> 00:56:05,160
what I think of as little sticky
notes, they're little tags that
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00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:10,050
get placed on the genes that
shut down or turn on certain
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00:56:10,050 --> 00:56:15,210
kinds of genetic memory. So it
does get passed down. And you
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00:56:15,210 --> 00:56:18,150
can think of it like our
ancestors leave us these sticky
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00:56:18,150 --> 00:56:24,030
notes. And that's part of the
work of healing trauma is
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00:56:24,030 --> 00:56:27,960
actually reading what's on the
sticky note, and then taking the
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00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:31,110
sticky note away, if you want to
think of it that way. And
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00:56:31,110 --> 00:56:36,060
that's, again, the Chinese knew
this, they knew the trauma was
709
00:56:36,060 --> 00:56:39,780
passed through generations, and
they would work with it
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00:56:39,780 --> 00:56:45,330
ritually. And now, neuroscience,
and modern science is actually
711
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:49,470
able to identify the changes
that are happening there.
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00:56:50,380 --> 00:56:55,390
And what the Yogis say is that
when we do our own healing,
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00:56:55,720 --> 00:56:59,290
we're healing the seven
generations behind us, and the
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00:56:59,290 --> 00:57:04,900
seven generations before ahead
of us. And so that's why it's so
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00:57:04,900 --> 00:57:08,350
important for each of us to do
our own individual healing work.
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00:57:08,620 --> 00:57:10,330
And we do it in community also.
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Beautiful, absolutely beautiful.
Our final question, I'm
718
00:57:18,749 --> 00:57:22,619
interested in hearing more about
creating boundaries in the
719
00:57:22,619 --> 00:57:27,059
treatment room, specifically
with regards to trauma in a
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00:57:27,059 --> 00:57:31,169
loving and kind way. And we've
got, we've got a bit of so for
721
00:57:31,169 --> 00:57:36,509
this. So let's, let's start with
you, Gail.
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So how do we create boundaries
within the treating treatment
723
00:57:41,100 --> 00:57:43,440
room? Yes,
724
00:57:43,980 --> 00:57:49,080
creating boundaries in a loving
and kind way? How do we create
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00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:50,580
and maintain boundaries?
726
00:57:53,940 --> 00:57:59,760
Well, again, I think that we
have to, we have to start, I
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00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:05,250
always start with self, you
know, am I compassionate? And
728
00:58:05,250 --> 00:58:11,730
kind and clear within myself? Do
I honour my own boundary? When I
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00:58:11,730 --> 00:58:15,690
hear my voice when I feel no
inside my body? Do I honour it?
730
00:58:15,690 --> 00:58:22,590
Or do I overrule it? Do I? So I
think again, I just think it has
731
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to start with self with me
knowing that I'm me, and I'm not
732
00:58:27,330 --> 00:58:33,150
you. That's, I mean, that's
where it starts. Really? I'm me.
733
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I'm not you. And then we evolve
from well, where empathy comes
734
00:58:40,500 --> 00:58:44,940
in then is, well, I'm somewhat
like you and where the spirit
735
00:58:44,940 --> 00:58:48,930
comes in is, I'm nothing but
you, but we don't start we don't
736
00:58:48,930 --> 00:58:56,010
start there. So the boundary is
I am me. You are you. We are two
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00:58:56,010 --> 00:59:04,020
souls meeting and connecting and
sharing to understand one
738
00:59:04,020 --> 00:59:09,960
another. So I think that I don't
know if that's helpful to you. I
739
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just think it's knowing your
own. You have to know you. First
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00:59:13,650 --> 00:59:24,030
you have to know what you are
willing to. What is put up with?
741
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Yeah.
742
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Do you have any. Lorie, do you
have any final words to close
743
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today's programme?
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00:59:36,450 --> 00:59:40,860
Well, I do want to just add to
what Gail just said, I love the
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00:59:40,860 --> 00:59:44,070
breakdown. And I do want to say
that if that question is coming
746
00:59:44,070 --> 00:59:48,870
from a practitioner, I have an
extensive course on exactly that
747
00:59:48,870 --> 00:59:55,890
topic. A spirit a heart based
approach to boundaries in the
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00:59:55,890 --> 01:00:02,580
treatment room. So it's on it is
at our side. possibility.com and
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01:00:02,610 --> 01:00:06,930
it's, you know, kind of the
product of many, many years of
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work in that in that arena. So I
wanted to just add that piece.
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I'm gonna teach so much. I would
like to end today's programme,
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but before we do, I would like
to remind everybody that coming
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up on the ninth, the 18th of
November, that's the 18th of
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November, we have got a
fabulous, fabulous live webinar.
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We've currently have an early
bird discount for that. So so if
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you book early, you'll be
willingly discount, right? And
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that is on no pause and women's
health, cross disciplinary
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conversations on whole person's
care for women. And that is
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being led by Brian Gross and
Petra Cavalli, Shelly Prasco,
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and Annika Sips. Just a couple
more bits before we get and
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today's session is going to be
emailed to video form, so you
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can enjoy it. And we're also
please do you register for that
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digital goodie bag? Because it's
brimming. The goodie bag is
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brimming with very, very good
things. I'll now. Now I'd like
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to end by saying a very big
thank you to our two wonderful
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guests, Lorie Dechar and Dr.
Gail Parker, thank you so much
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for sharing your wisdom with us.
So very generously. Thank you.
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I'd also like to say a very big
thank you to our marvellous
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marvellous participants
thanking, engaging for joining
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with us today. And I'd also like
to say at this point, a very big
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thank you to Suzanne, she's the
lady lurking behind the Singing
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Dragon logo and she's been
absolutely fabulous in helping
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to pull this event together. And
a final big thank you to Singing
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Dragon for hosting this event.
It's been an absolute pleasure,
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sending you lots of love,
sending out to you and goodbye.
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And thank you so much for coming
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Thanks, everyone.